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4 Steps to fix the fight for the New Year


One of the questions I get often from my single friends is, "how did you fight your desires?" Lets be real, I was not a virgin yet I was reclaiming my virginity. Hence the title of this blog. The only thing that got me through was my daily time with God, and I kept all my writings. Here is one I want to share with you, and I pray it helps. It was written in 2011 and it resonated loudly on my approach for 2019.
FIX THE FIGHT
"For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want. " Galatians 5:17

I read a horrifying article of a man who raised dogs to fight. Over time his dog fighting events gained popularity and gamblers were coming in from all over to place their bets on what dog would win. Even the mastermind behind the horrifying scheme had managed to make a pretty penny on fixing the matches so he always won. But how do you fix a dog fight? You can't tell one dog to not defend itself and when they grow up vicious there really is little obedience training involved, so how did he manage to "fix" the fights? A few days before the fight was scheduled he would simply not feed the dog. The dog would be too weak to fight and consequently lose in battle.

This is how it is in your spiritual walk. Paul describes how there is a constant battle between the spirit and flesh. Have you ever wanted something so much but you knew it wasn't yours to have? Did you ever want something that was unhealthy? Did you ever want something that is morally wrong? These are examples of the war that wages within us all. We can all acknowledge the rights and wrongs of the situation and declare with confidence that "its wrong" and you will never do that. But even Paul warned those that claimed would not fall, "So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don't fall!" 1 Cor. 10:12 The reality is we all fall short of even our own expectations. They are humbling experiences nonetheless.

 So what is one to do? 
Take the strategic move above to increase your chances of success. Don't feed the flesh. How does one do this? Feed the Spirit:
1. First step is to remove your self from the situation, take a step back. You need time with God who can give you guidance in this fight. Think of it like going to your corner to your coach for outside perspective on how to win.
2. Pray- Even when you don't know the words, trust that the Spirit intercedes for you. Romans 8:26. What would you say if God stood before you- tell Him.

3. Fast- Abel's sacrifice was an act of hard work, he didn't pluck from the ground and call it a day, he chose the best which took time and slaughtered, which took action, he then put it on the offering table. Show God your serious and your ready to slain the best of yourself to get closer to Him.

4. Worship- Believe it or not you worship all day. You worship your favorite artist, authors, athletes, and teams. You were built to worship and you don't even know it. But worship properly directed is a recharge of our batteries, flooding joy and peace during difficult times.

I can't say it better than how Paul said it, "I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us." Romans 8:18. There are many that would love to see you fail, but God wants you to succeed and you can fix the fight to make sure of it! To God be all the Glory!


In 2019 fix the fight.

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